Empowering Athletes: Building Confidence and Resilience

Empowering Athletes: Building Confidence and Resilience

In a recent episode of "Bound for Greatness Today," Scott Garvis sat down with Rob Miller, a renowned figure in proactive coaching, to delve into a crucial aspect of sports – the role parents and coaches play in fostering confidence in young athletes. Sponsored by the National High School Athletic Coaches Association, the conversation unfolded as a valuable resource for parents and coaches seeking insights on raising confident athletes.

The Cornerstone of Success: Confidence
The discussion kicked off with a focus on confidence, a key factor in an athlete's success both on and off the field. Miller emphasized the importa HEnce of collaboration between parents and coaches, citing Bruce Brown's wisdom on the subject. When parents and coaches work together, great things happen for the athlete. The challenge lies in ensuring a unified message to avoid sowing doubt in the athlete's mind.

Process Over Results:
Miller advocated for a shift in focus from results to process, encouraging parents to seek coaches who prioritize practice over tournaments. He highlighted the significance of repetitions and the development of fundamental skills through a well-defined process. Drawing parallels with European sports culture, Miller emphasized the need to understand the journey and the steps involved in achieving goals, ultimately building confidence through a strong foundation.

Encouraging Independence:
Independence emerged as a critical factor in building confidence. Miller stressed the importance of athletes owning their development, setting goals, and formulating plans. Coaches and parents should provide guidance without imposing their vision, allowing athletes to take control of their experiences. The goal is to inspire ownership, empowering young athletes to understand the process and work towards their goals.

Positive Reinforcement:
A standout point in the conversation was the power of positive reinforcement. Miller highlighted the impact of acknowledging and celebrating the positive actions of athletes, whether it be in practice or outside the field. Coaches and parents should actively communicate these moments to create a supportive environment that reinforces confidence and self-belief.

Balancing Risk-Taking:
The conversation also touched on the delicate balance between allowing athletes to take risks and ensuring their safety. Miller encouraged coaches and parents to work together, explaining that growth often involves stepping out of one's comfort zone. However, a shared understanding of limits is crucial to prevent pushing young athletes beyond reasonable boundaries.

Problem-Solving Skills:
Teaching athletes problem-solving skills emerged as another key theme. Miller urged parents to refrain from solving every problem for their children, emphasizing the importance of empowering them to address challenges independently. Role-playing and allowing athletes to navigate through problems, with guidance, instill the wisdom required for effective communication and conflict resolution.

Modeling Behavior:
The importance of modeling behavior was underscored, with Miller emphasizing the impact of body language on athlete confidence. Coaches and parents should project resilience, determination, and positivity, especially in the face of adversity. Adopting Dean Smith's perspective that not every game is life or death helps maintain perspective and foster a healthy sporting environment.

Building Meaningful Relationships:
The conversation concluded with a focus on the significance of relationships beyond the family. Miller encouraged parents to support positive mentors, whether they be coaches, teachers, or family friends. The role of these mentors in guiding athletes through challenges and providing a different perspective can contribute significantly to personal growth.


Rob Miller's insights provided a roadmap for parents and coaches navigating the complexities of raising confident athletes. By embracing collaboration, prioritizing process over results, and fostering independence, the sports community can play a pivotal role in nurturing the next generation of resilient and confident individuals.

Bound for Greatness Podcast

Bound for Greatness is a podcast that addresses current issues facing athletic professionals and also offers leadership strategies for coaches and athletic administrators. Coach and athletic administrative veteran, Scott Garvis, tackles the issues facing education based activities from a unique perspective; sometimes irreverent, sometimes cynical, and sometimes serious. Scott covers current topics while also providing leadership lessons from his career as coach and administrator.

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